There are so many inspiring and uplifting books at the library—I just finished “Don’t leave me this way: or when I get back on my feet you’ll be sorry” by Julia Fox Garrison, which was both funny and inspiring. We’re a society that prides itself on continuing on forward, and these sort of books and stories are a result of it. Dave Pelzer (“A Child Called ‘It’”) could have wallowed in self-pity, but no, he made a decision to rise above his history of being abused.
Same thing for Julia, but an entirely different set of circumstances. She had a stroke that debilitated her, and several doctors gave her a grim prognosis, eventually ending with her death. But Julia didn’t succumb to the strong pressure to move out of “denial” and come to “acceptance” of their prognosis. She, too, made a conscious decision to not only live, but to thrive.
Another example: My parents could have accepted the fact that I would be deaf, mute, and illiterate all my life, but instead they operated “in denial” and did what they think would be best for me. Am I ever glad they did.
The reason that so many people are rising above adversity could be like what my former World Civilizations II professor said—we as a society are rising up Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. We refuse to live on the lower levels anymore, to be driven purely by bodily motives. Instead, by sheer mental faculties, we choose to live by our minds, searching for knowledge. We want to realize our potential in life.
The next step is living by our spirits, our souls. That is the transcendence level. When we’re no longer bothered by the stresses of life, we’re actually living on another plane, by a whole different set of meaning.
It’s difficult to swap out one set of rules for another, to move to transcendence. It’s a leap of faith. And faith itself is difficult to muster up some days. We’re so used to living life our way—whatever we set our minds to, we do. We like that simple cause-and-effect reason.
However, there are some things you cannot control, and we have to accept that. The cause-and-effect chain doesn’t include just us; there must be external forces at play, beyond imagination. We aren’t going through life alone, and we can’t be afraid to ask for help. Though the world seems unsteady at times, and life pulls the rug out from underneath your feet.
But a funny thing happens. When your main support—yourself—is out, you have to rely on other supports—your friends, family, and faith—to keep you up. With so much support, it becomes much harder to knock you down. Also, you know what it’s like to be down, and you’ll try your best to keep that from happening again. It’s a part of constantly pushing forward to the future, and not dwelling on the past.
So, when events conspire against you, just like it did against Julia, Dave, and countless others, reach out and depend on others. Live on a prayer. Place your trust in others, for they will see you through the darkest night until the sun rises again.